17. The one with some Angelou wisdom.

So Nora posted a Maya Angelou quote on her blog today.. and it got me weeding through some of my favorite ones. And I wanted to share:

When people show you who they are, believe them.

—Maya Angelou

Let me tell you why this speaks to me. When I was in college, I went to a church where the pastor gave us some homework. He said to go ask our best friend, the person who knows us the best, to honestly tell us what our three biggest faults are. I still remember verbatim what Erin told me.

  1. I am too trusting. I don’t protect my heart as well as I should. I am not as careful when believing people and give too much of my self and effort before people really deserve it.
  2. I don’t stand up for myself. I don’t like confrontation, and can mostly rationalize anything to be partly my fault.
  3. I struggle with low confidence, sometimes being WAY worse than others.

So the believing other people when they tell me who they are is a very important lesson to learn. And not just to say that when people are jerks… sometime that’s really what they are… but I have been known to BLATANTLY ignore what people tell me about them… convinced I see something or know something that they don’t. For example, Ryan. When we started dating, we broke up twice in three months because he repeatedly told me that he was not ready for a serious girlfriend. He told me he wasn’t ready to even meet the girl he would marry… but I was convinced that I knew better.

When people are jerks. When people are selfish and unkind… than maybe they’re just selfish and unkind.. and luckily there are enough selfless and kind people in the world to make up for it.

One Response to “17. The one with some Angelou wisdom.”

  1. i think we are cut from the same cloth. Seriously.

    There weren't a lot of bad moments in my relationship with Irish but I had a been paying attention to who he is through his actions + words, I would have known we would wind up here. Similar situation to you & Ryan really. Interesting how that works out, eh?

    I've been told I have similar "faults," as well. Which means we must be destined to be friends!

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