More of this, Less of that.


Ruts are lame.

However, perhaps worst than the rut is the fact that I could tell you FIVE THINGS right now that would change the way I feel about my life.   It is time to snap the fuck out of it.  (She says looking into a mirror.)

See, I called my bestie last night as she was wrestling with some possible life decisions, and she said she was making lists of things she would like to do more of and things she would like to do less of.  She did it while coloring in her planner with colorful markers and singing (I am assuming) at the top of her lungs to Disney music.  She’s figuring things out WITH DISNEY MUSIC.  She is totally going to be just fine.

It’s so basic we FORGET it’s not that complicated.

Want your life to be different?  How?  Write it down.  What do you want more of?  What are the things you would spend your days doing if you could?  THEN, what are you doing that is bullshit?  What is wasting your time and energy?  What are you doing every day that is giving you NO JOY?

Do more of what makes you happy.  Do less of what makes you miserable.

Figure out what those things are.  Start doing them.   Schedule them in.  MAKE TIME FOR YOUR HAPPINESS.

Here’s what I have so far:


  • Connecting with friends.  Dinners, champagne dates, skype nights?  My calender is about to get a whole lot happier.
  • Running.  (Why is this ALWAYS the easiest mood booster and the one we skip?)
  • Eating good food
  • Reading
  • Extended mornings of coffee and dancing around my apartment


  • Laziness
  • Television watching
  • Eating crap
  • Saying yes to things that fill up my calender with stress

What could you do more of and less of RIGHT NOW that would change your life?

12 Responses to “More of this, Less of that.”

  1. it seems like it should be easy, right? the concept is, at least. the actions…never seem to be so easy.

    ruts ARE so lame. seems like you have a pretty good plan in place for climbing on out though.

  2. Yes! You are bang on! I recently did a similar thing and made a plan listing out all of the things I could do to feel happier and uphold my values. I have pages of ideas, most of them are small, easy to do things. Except, I haven't really started doing them yet. Ugh. It's so easy, yet so hard.

  3. Love this post! And yes, it does seem simple, but it doesn't mean it's easy. The hardest thing for me is consistency.

    Thanks for giving me inspiration to again actively decide how to spend my time…because if I don't PLAN my time, I waste it!

  4. I'm totally with you on more healthy food, less junk food. I've been struggling with that one for months, mostly because junk food offers the immediate gratification of tasting delicious. Maybe I'll leave a big note for myself on the fridge to remind myself that I'll feel awful later unless I eat healthful foods.

  5. I don't know if it'd change my life, but I want more input! More time to watch TED talks, more time to watch PBS programming, more time to read Yoga Journal, more time to read a BOOK.

  6. what a wonderful post! I hear you, ruts are AWFUL but it's so nice to see you doing something about it! I'm with you though – ruts are the easiest and best instant mood lifter! Wishing you luck! xoxo

  7. It's funny…I just made my list and the only real item that I want LESS of is my day job. I loathe almost everything about it. So I guess what I need MORE of is patience. Because with patience I can calmly make it to May. And with May comes graduation and two weeks notice :)

  8. On the running thing – it's so easy, yet why do I always put it off? It's the same with yoga. I know my body likes it and that it clears my mind and yet I'll always put it off to the end of my to-do list. I'd like to do more.

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