I love spending time with my husband, but sometimes the extrovert in me gets a bit carried away and we spend the weekend apart or shuttling from one activity to the next. With our first baby on the way we are very aware that one-on-one time is going to be limited very soon, in fact, this past weekend was the LAST weekend we have without busyness until the end of October. We know that having a baby is going to decrease our ability to have big date nights for a while, so we’ve instituted some rituals and routines into our week to shield us from all the coming chaos of a baby.
How to Date your Husband
- Have routine mini-dates each week. Friday’s Mr. A doesn’t start teaching until a bit later than normal, so Friday mornings we have a coffee date. We walk to coffee, he walks me to the train, he kisses me goodbye and heads off to school. Really the total time for our date isn’t more than 30 minutes, but we look forward to it all week and it’s like a big sloppy wet kiss of a welcome to the weekend.
- Go the the GOOD brunch place. I think it’s common to wait for the good stuff for when you’re with other people. Mr. A and I have a breakfast place that is pretty good, we also have the fancy brunch place that usually reserve for out-of-town guests or special occasions… Saturday, for no reason, he and I went to the good brunch place on our own. Fancy drinks were ordered. Shmoopy faces were made over the table at each other. Sometimes JUST THE TWO OF YOU is worth pulling out the fancy for.
- Seize the Opportunity. Not every date has to be planned. Sometimes they just happen. For example, Saturday night we were both so tired after running around and grocery shopping and we smelled the amazing aromas of chicken strips coming from the hot food section. What did we do, you ask? Ordered some of those chicken strips, rented a movie from the Blockbuster Express in the store, and promptly went home for a living room picnic. Date night BOOM.
- Have something to look forward to. Maybe this is just me, but I LOVE having something to look forward to. I am REALLY looking forward to going to the Pumpkin Festival in Half Moon Bay in October. It will be such a fun day and it’s in my calender complete with some quality drawings of a pumpkin or two. Maybe what you’re looking forward to is a movie release that you guys will hit up, maybe its a trip you’ve planned, whatevs.
- Build the Excitement. Text him, leave him a note, shoot him a quick email, whatever; let him know you’re really looking forward to time with him. You get more excited, he gets excited. EVERYONE WINS.